Trade offs
Posted by Chevalier on July 6, 2009
This analogy came up in a discussion of ladies not being available during a time convenient for the client, so it’s focused on schedule. I’ve modified it to apply also to the question of rates:
quote: Originally posted by lance charger
What do golfers do when they can’t get the T-Time they want?Great analogy. If the specific TIME [or cost] is what’s most important they change golf courses and call as many as they possibly can in the area to get the TIME they want [or greens fees they want to spend]. If the specific GOLF COURSE is what’s most important to them, they take whatever [tee] time [at whatever rate] they can get. In my view it’s how the customer chooses to prioritize what it is they WANT, it’s something different for everybody as this thread illustrates very well.
Some just like to play golf, and the specific course doesn’t matter that much. Some like to play a specific course, and don’t worry as much about the schedule or cost. Two approaches; neither is wrong; just different.
In P4P, some clients choose ladies based on when they’re available or what their rate is. Some choose ladies because they want to see that particular lady, and the schedule and rate are secondary concerns (although still constraints to a degree). More and more, I find myself in that second group.
The complaints arise when someone wants to have their cake and eat it too. Have their choice of a specific golf course, while still get the tee time and greens fees they prefer. If you can, more power to you, but most often you have to accept trade-offs. Do so with grace, please.
Sarah said
From my own point of view – as a working girl – when I worked for an agency, sometimes I was not the guy’s first choice. This could be down to the fact that his first choice either did not exist…lol, was not working that day, or had been booked out elsewhere. The agency owner had no problem in telling you that you had not been asked for
When I became an indie, even if I was not the guy’s first choice, the great thing was, I didn’t have to know about it. If I am not someone’s first choice this time, I will be next time… ha ha!
Chevalier said
Hi Sarah,
I think the agency should have kept quiet about it.
We clients are not always sensitive to that perspective. We do want to see the lady we’re with, but without any strings. The ladies understand that, and that they aren’t the ATF of every client — but at the same time, understandably don’t want to be reminded of that. I plead guilty to sometimes not being tactful about that. I once was chastised for my occasional practice, when I had a short notice window of opportunity, of sending an email to several ladies to increase the odds that I’d find at least one available before that window of opportunity closed.
Ladies rarely bring this sort of perspective up, perhaps because of the fear that some prospective clients will see it as being overly possessive in an inappropriate fashion, but I suspect many of them — at least the best ladies — feel the same way to some degree.
Chevalier said
And see here for further comments by Sarah about this topic. Interesting.