In honor of a legend

From Farrah Fawcett:

The reason that the all-American boy prefers beauty to brains is that he can see better than he can think.

(Of course, ideally we find ladies with both.)

Missed opportunity

No, nothing to do with P4P.  It’s about a chess game.

K. Emmrich v. Bruno Moritz, Bad Oyenhaussen tournament (Hamburg, Germany), 1922:

1. d4 d5  2. c4 e5  3. dxe5 d4  4. Nf3 Nc6  5. Nbd2 f6  6. exf6 Qxf6  7. g3 Bg4  8. Bg2 O-O-O  9. O-O Nge7  10. Qb3 Ng6  11. a4 Bb4  12. a5 Bxa5  13. Qa4 Rhe8  14. Nb3 Rxe2  15. Nxa5 Bxf3  16. Bh3+ Rd7  17. Qb5 Nce5  18. Bxd7+ Nxd7  19. Ra3 Re5  20. Qb3 Nh4  21. Bf4 Qg6  22. Bxe5 Nxe5  23. Qb5 Qh5  24. Qc5 Nhg6  25. Qb5 Nf4  26. Re1 and here Black blundered with 26. . . . Bd5??  27. cxd5 Nh3+  28. Kf1 and Black resigned.

Click this link for diagram of the critical point.  OK, see the missed opportunity now?  If not, click on “Read the rest of this entry.”

How long after retirement??

Ladies, and occasionally even clients, retire from P4P.  Since we maintain some degree of anonymity, and are known more by our “P4P name” than by our real life identify, it’s fairly easy to walk away.  There is no longer a “Lady X,” only a “Civilian A”; there is no longer a “Client Z,” only a “Civilian B.”  No one in their right mind will tell anyone about the connection between the P4P and the civilian identity.  But even after retirement, people sometimes check for online references to the old identity.  I’m not entirely sure why the retiree would; that’s all behind him or her.  In some respects, those were two separate and carefully compartmentalized lives; the old identity can be amputated without looking back.  Indeed, that’s the whole point.

Others searching for a retiree?  Well, maybe they search for references to an old playfriend in hopes of finding him/her and re-establishing the old P4P relationship.  That also seems silly; if someone merely went UTR (or un-retired but as UTR), either they want to re-establish the old relationship with you, in which case they’ll find you, or they don’t want to re-establish the old relationship, in which case you shouldn’t be looking for them.

So that leads to the question I’m curious about.  If you retired from P4P, would you look back at what people were saying about you online, and if so, how long after retirement?  Or if a former playfriend retired from P4P, how long after his/her retirement would you continue to search for or inquire about him/her?

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Yeah, this question didn’t just come out of thin air . . .

Euphemisms

For illicit sex, from an entry on Andrew Sullivan’s blog:

Discussing Ugandan relations

or

Hiking the Appalachian trail

The second is more recent, but I had never heard of the events giving rise to the first one.

(OK, I’m not seriously suggesting use of these euphemisms; I just found them amusing.)

Survival mode

About a month ago, I posted an entry wondering what percentage of the ladies were in “survival mode” — getting just enough appointments to get by.  I had for a long time figured that the really high-earning ladies, at least those able to maintain that for an extended period of time, were not tremendously common.  But I had assumed that a lot were able to at least make a comfortable living.  At least, before I ran into some laments to the contrary.

Part of the problem in estimating how many of the ladies find themselves in that situation, of course, is a lack of readily available (and verifiable) information.  And now, I just ran across an anonymous poll on ASPD.  Certainly not a scientific survey, but perhaps more realistic than what the ladies will say publicly for attribution.

Reflections on community and mortality

This is probably something I’ve mentioned before, but it occurred to me again today because of a discussion on ASPD.  Specifically, a long time member (and a moderator in recent years) passed away.  As with similar situations in the past, such as one of the ladies dying in a motorcycle crash, the “community” expresses its respects and its sorrow for the loss.  It may be a somewhat limited sense of community, less than in some other contexts in civilian life, but it exists nonetheless.

Yet, it reminded me that these are manifestations of two different levels of “community,” in a way . . . not unique, but significantly different, in the context of P4P.

It isn’t love — and sometimes maybe it’s . . .

I ran across a discussion over on TER, started by a guy who had an incredible experience with a lady to the point that

I am afraid that if I see her again and penetrate her I will be a complete wreck. I don’t want to leave my SO and family life, but I might be tempted to for this woman, if that opportunity ever presented itself. I am under no illusion that that would ever happen, but I cannot deny what I am feeling here with this woman either.

Of course, the responses were overwhelmingly (and appropriately) to the effect: you’re reading too much into it; watch yourself; don’t lose control.  I think that’s what just about all of us in P4P would advise.

Then I came across this discussion at TER that expressed something similar to those comments, although in more humorous fashion, concerning “Your provider — she loves you; she loves you not — and how to tell for sure”:

I wonder how that will work

It’s not necessarily the biggest complaint the ladies have, but one thing that is frequently drummed into clients’ heads — forcefully at times — is don’t try to negotiate prices.  Sometimes stated as “don’t haggle.”  It is a definite sore spot for most (almost all?) of the ladies.  There are sometimes a few grudging caveats expressed, that sometimes it might be OK under certain circumstances.  But the overall theme is very clear: here is her price, if you don’t want to pay that much, go somewhere else.  Entirely their right to feel that way, and I understand/empathize with that perspective.  Although it doesn’t seem intrinsically wrong to negotiate in P4P, I still don’t, because I know that it offends so many of the ladies.

Recently, perhaps in response to difficult economic times, I saw a somewhat stronger and more explicit backing away from the absolutist “no negotiations” position.  But I’m not sure how well that new approach will work.

An interesting project

Alexa (of Real Princess Diaries) recently started a project: a web site for sex workers to submit stories about their decision to enter the sex business.  Of course it’s still in the early stages, and only 10 sex workers have submitted their stories so far.  But it’s an interesting project, with stories we don’t often get to hear.  I’m looking forward to it.

The site is My First Professional Sex.  Check it out.  And if you’re a sex worker, consider submitting your story.

Additions to my blogroll

I’ve added another couple of blogs to my blogroll, that I think you might find interesting:

On-Again, Off-Again GFE (Notes of a Troubled Hooker) — by Antonella.  She doesn’t post frequently, but has an original voice and interesting perspective.  I would characterize her attitude as less upbeat than on some other escort blogs . . . but that’s a useful perspective to hear occasionally, isn’t it?  I think so.

Diary of a John — by Richard.  There are relatively few blogs by P4P clients, at least other than the ones that are primarily an excercise in chest-thumping about how great a stud he is. We may not always have the same perspective, and in some ways I think we’re quite different, but Richard’s views are interesting and well articulated . . . and reading a different perspective is what this is all about, n’est ce pas?  It’s particularly interesting, I think, because he’s just starting down the road into P4P and is giving us a window to a client’s initial entry.  I’m not sure I can even remember what my first experiences were like, they were so long ago. So it shows me a world that either I never knew or have forgotten.

Anyway, check them out.  I hope you enjoy.  And learn.