Different environments

I’ve thought before about how different a P4P  blog is from a P4P discussion  board.  Discussions may be more thoughtful and in-depth versus the more casual chatter; less pure information exchange.  Fewer readers and fewer still participants. A blog feels more intimate, like a conversation between a few friends rather than a town hall meeting, and perhaps as a result the tone is frequently less strident and angry — although I do have my moments. Neither is necessarily better or worse; just different.

Last night I made another one of my rare forays into a third type of online environment — chat (on ASPD).  That is even more different.  Rapid repartee mixed with a little flirting.  More immediate.  Less formal.  I don’t really understand the “chat culture,” although one thing stuck out when I read the chat forum rules.  Lurking — reading but not participating — is frowned on, and even considered suspicious.  In fact, after a certain length of time there with jumping in, they may kick you out.

I’ve dipped my toe into the pool a few times in the past, but it’s really not the right environment for me.  I ponder and am deliberate, versus the fast-paced give-and-take there.  It’s a very social atmosphere and I’m a classic introverted wallflower who couldn’t flirt effectively if my life depended on it.  I’m also a classic lurker. Chat is neither better nor worse than other types of online environments — just different and a matter of preference.  I almost always feel awkward there, which is why I rarely visit.  But it’s probably a good idea occasionally to expose yourself to somewhere you feel a bit uncomfortable.

So THAT explains it!

I don’t have time for blog reading much these days. But I happened upon this interesting little note on Livvy’s blog on “pleasure research.”  Specifically the conclusion of the study:

A team of researchers at Newcastle University, led by Professor Daniel Nettle and Doctor Thomas Pollet, has found that the higher a man’s income, the higher the frequency of his partner’s orgasms.

Of course, Livvy’s summary of it was much more entertaining:

Adaptation

I wonder how the ladies are adapting to ASPD being down for a significant period of time.

ASPD, yet again

The last interruption was relatively brief, and then ASPD was back up, with the slow responses apparently banished.  I don’t think they’d fixed all the broken functionality yet, but at least showing signs of improvement and apparently a planned down-time for maintenance.

Then, sometime yesterday afternoon, it went back down again.  Still down, from what I can tell.  Perhaps this was also a planned down-time, although Friday night seems a strange time to start such.  Hopefully it will be back up soon.

(If any ASPD staff are reading this and wish to reply to communicate the status of whatever is going on, feel free.  And good luck getting everything back up, new and improved, soon.)

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Update, additional news added in comments below

MSOG

This is one of the aspects of a P4P session that is very important to a lot of clients.  I started wondering recently, though, why it is prized so much.

Don’t get me wrong.  I really enjoy sex, and I completely understand someone who enjoys another round — if the scheduled time permits — more than cuddling, chatting, or leaving early.  It doesn’t surprise me that MSOG is valued highly by clients.  I just wondered whether there were factors in addition to the obvious.  I suspect there are, even if they’re relatively minor compared to the “more of a good thing is better.”

Embarrassing

I recently visited some new ladies.  Yes, I have a couple of favorites with whom I’m very content, but: (a) they’re not always available; and (b) I have to prepare for their inevitable retirement from P4P.

Anyway, one of the encounters was rather embarrassing.  It’s bad enough to get so excited during the preliminaries that I don’t make it to the main event.  It’s worse when I can’t maintain the erection sufficiently for the main event (even though a return to the preliminaries got some results).  *sigh*

ASPD, again

There was an announcement on ASPD yesterday, I think, that the site would be unavailable early mornings for awhile, while it was getting maintenance and software updates.  This morning — not just slow loading, but a screen saying:

There seems to have been a slight problem with the RAPS-The Review and Posting Society database.
Please try again by pressing the refresh button in your browser.

An E-Mail has been dispatched to our Technical Staff, who you can also contact if the problem persists.

 

We apologise for any inconvenience.

So, presumably intended and (hopefully) of relatively short duration.  Hopefully less than a week.  Of course, a week can be a very long time if you’re a client who wants to get laid or a lady who needs the business it brings.

People will be looking for backups and/or places to get information about what’s going on.  In addition to some of the existing similar boards — see my “Other Links” page for a few of the local ones – other ad hoc groups may spring up.  (I understand the Dallas area “happy hour” group is going to attempt to meet some of those needs as a temporary expedient.)

Only an inconvenience, not necessarily cause for panic — at least, for those who were prepared for this possibility.  Hopefully y’all are among that group.

Scheduling and different business models

There’s a recent thread on ASPD, about problems with scheduling.  I don’t think the real issue is what some posters seem to think it is, though.  It’s not entirely, or even mostly, a question of flakiness or being unprofessional, although there’s certainly some of that.  It’s more an issue of different components of the market or different business models, and how clients deal with that.  Different ladies use different approaches to the business, for what they consider legitimate reasons, and that will always be the case.  Clients adjust our patronage accordingly, but we’re not going to talk the ladies into choosing one business model if another works better for them.

Let’s retire this acronym

(OK some would say technically it’s an initialism rather than an acronym.  But I’m not sure there’s a consensus about that.  See here.)

Where was I?  Oh yeah, an acronym that seems to be used more and more in recent years in the P4P arena (although that’s not the only place it’s used, of course) that: (1) doesn’t have a clear consensus definition; (2) arguably, under one definition, rarely would apply in P4P; (3) is overused, to the point that it’s become almost the equivalent of background noise that has no real content; and (4) is annoying.  To me, anyway.

It’s even less meaningful than “GFE.” 

So let’s retire it.

I’m talking, of course, about “MILF.”

It’s all relative

 I talk frequently about enjoying a connection with the ladies I see, even though I at least occasionally remember to specify that the connection is intrinsically limited.  Maybe it’s close to what Peridot Ash was describing in the comments here:

there’s a big difference between forming a friendly and understanding connection during a session vs. an emotional bond . . . totally different from the rapport I develop with clients for the purpose of pleasure business, which I have no problem with. My point on this question was about certain kinds of men who want to go well beyond that in-session rapport into something much deeper which can never be for sale.

Or in her post about “immediate intimacy.” 

But maybe I should retire the “connection” talk altogether, because it really is misleading.  The more I think about it, the more I conclude that I have much less of a connection with the ladies I see than most clients do.  (At least, most clients who are also participants on discussion boards, since I don’t have any way of assessing the behavior of other clients.) 

It’s all relative, and relative to most other guys, I might be best described as reserved — not at all someone to whom ladies would likely feel particularly close.  Not that I’m an unpleasant chap.  I’m a reasonably nice guy; just remote, and possibly a bit unapproachable.