The boundary — it’s really pretty simple

OK, so a thread starts out talking about whether ladies frequently experience problems with clients who mistake the illusion/fantasy for reality, and how they deal with it.  But then it winds up in a very odd place, assigning responsibility for communicating that to the lady (and insinuating that any confusion is her fault) and saying

However, the line [between regular and stalker] is in fact, invisible.

That is what makes the boundary definition such a challenge!

Uh, no.  I liked Mokoa’s response:

Mountain? Molehill?

Sometimes I just shake my head at threads like this about “all these escorts are undisciplined, wasting money, and making poor ‘lifestyle choice’; I’m annoyed that they come on here asking for money/help.”

Obvious, isn’t it?

An article about a particular Internet phenomenon, perhaps best summed up by this line:

blogging is now the uncoolest thing you can do on the Internet

We all knew that already. It’s rather consistent with

What’s wrong with that?

Part of the disillusionment that some clients find with P4P is, I think, an “all or nothing” attitude that allows for no middle ground.  Either she loves him — which is very rarely the case, and if it were, well, many clients really don’t want that and would fear it — or he’s “just another client.”  It’s a faulty analysis for a couple of different reasons.

In the first place, it’s not just a binary choice.  There is a middle ground along the continuum.  As “Carrie of London” expressed it in this thread on TER:

Communications

There was a thread recently on ECCIE about clients, on an outcall, not providing an atmosphere that the ladies enjoyed.  The primary issue was “too much light.”  That’s cool.  I have a preference (slight) for a well-lit room, particularly when with a beautiful naked lady, but that’s nowhere near as important to me as pleasing my guest.  I’ll count it among the many things I’ve been learning over the years about how to make the encounter (whether incall or outcall) more enjoyable for my partner.  Improvement is a good thing, n’est ce pas?  And sometimes you can teach an old dog a new trick.

But the thread did remind me of the difficulty we sometimes experience in communicating with one another directly.

Personal space

I had a fantastic time visiting one of my favorite ladies today.  OK, the memories normally distract me from any other thoughts, including work, at least for the rest of the day. But there was one aspect of today’s tryst a little bit out of the ordinary, which I reflected on as I drove back to the office.  It involves location, and the feeling of entering someone’s personal space.

You don’t see that every day

I’ve discussed  before this topic of what ladies like about clients (other than $$$ and “good client behavior”).  The question of a lady’s attraction to a client developing over time (based on various factors) versus on first sight (based solely on physical appearance).  The middle area between the extremes of attraction or repulsion, where other factors are relevant.  The ladies often make similar comments; an example by Sarah in the comments here.  I’ve pretty much internalized that.  It might be nice to look like George Clooney, but it’s not necessary in order to get along well with escorts, and I can’t change my appearance drastically anyway, so I don’t worry about it. 

And then I run across this comment on ECCIE by an escort:

Beginnings

Here’s a “rant” by Beverly Fisher about Prostitution: Getting Into the Life.  It’s an interesting insight into one person’s entry into the world of P4P.  I found it fascinating; hope you do too.

Hotels

There was a discussion over on the Diamonds & Tuxedos forum at ECCIE about “hotel giveaways” — essentially, how you can spot a working girl at a hotel.  The primary observation concerned a well-dressed, attractive lady who discarded an empty envelope as she was walking out of the hotel.

Being noticeable is a common concern for both parties. 

Intimidation

There are a lot of very attractive young ladies working in P4P.  There are a lot of not-as-attractive (and that may be understatement) old fogeys who are P4P clients.  It makes for some interesting psychological dynamics.  One thing that I hadn’t really thought much about, until I read a comment about it recently, was the possibility of clients being intimidated by the ladies’ youth and beauty.  Although as I thought about it, I concluded that from my perspective the problem was more that I was not intimidated.