Damn, it’s great

when you spend time with one of those “just right” ladies.  It’s relatively easy to find an escort with whom you will have a great time BCD.  Attractive, GFE, professional/reliable, warm and friendly.  It’s harder to find one with whom you’d really enjoy hanging out even if sex were not involved.  (Well, at least it’s harder for me, since I’m an anti-social curmudgeon.)  Someone with intelligence, a wicked sense of humor, similar interests, and a great personality.  That’s winning the lottery.

I’ve run across a few ladies that fit all of that, although several retired.  But I managed to reconnect with one, whom I hadn’t seen in years, recently.  It made my day.

Perspective

I ran across an interesting post on Craigslist a few months ago.  (I never browse Craigslist, so assume I found it through a link elsewhere, but can’t remember where.  Maybe TER?)  It’s not really about P4P . . . although it may explain some of the client behavior and attitudes you see in P4P.  Well, maybe it is about P4P in part; I rather suspect that the author would not approve of us.  Fair enough. 

I imagine that some readers will disagree with this or find it rather harsh.  Personally, I enjoyed it — an interesting perspective, amusingly presented, even if it contains some unpleasant truths.  YOMV and CASG. A copy of the post, that I saved at the time, after the jump:

A picture is worth 1000 words

There was apparently a little bit of a brouhaha on ASPD recently about geniusman replying to reviews to post pictures of the lady being reviewed.  An ASPD thread about it here, and an ECCIE thread about it here.

I missed the memo on this one, so I am not sure exactly when or how the restriction was expressed.  But my initial reaction is that the whole thing sounds a little bit silly on both sides.

Drifting

Speaking of “lists,” mine is rather short at the moment, at least compared to where it’s been in the past.  I’m at a stage where who is more important than what.  The desire tends to be more specific, directed at particular individuals – wanting to see X or Y or Z rather than just wanting to get laid with anyone acceptable who happens to be available.  So, there’s my ATF.  Maybe two other favorites remain on the list (after others retired or disappeared), and one of those is so damned far away [** see below] that the list is almost reduced to two.  (It’s worth the time and effort to go visit the distant lady, but it’s extremely difficult to fit into my schedule.)  That’s it.  Unfortunately, with a list that short, it’s sometimes difficult (between my schedule and theirs) to schedule very often.

There are certainly other ladies who are attractive, friendly, and accommodating.   I’ve seen them before and know that, if I feel the urge and can’t schedule with one of my favorites, I would enjoy seeing them.  But I don’t experience as much (if any) feeling of connection with them.  I might contact them if the “feeling [comes] upon me like a tidal wave.”  But with respect to planning an rendezvous because of thinking about a specific lady — as is more often the case these days, as opposed to just because of an unfocused physical urge looking for a target on which to focus — it’s likely just one of the three (or two?) on that dwindling list of favorites/regulars.  Most often, although not always, if none of them are available I may not even try to find another partner for the afternoon.

Sometimes when my “favorites” list gets short, I wind up “replenishing” it by seeing other ladies who might become a favorite/regular.  But at least at the moment I don’t feel a lot of enthusiasm or urgency for that either.  And at the moment, I’m not sure if there is anyone on my “to see”/”prospects” list, although admittedly I haven’t been looking very actively.  (If I don’t look actively and carefully, I’m not apt to them.  There are a lot of ladies in Dallas, but few who catch my fancy.)  At some point, if the list dwindles further or it becomes increasingly difficult to arrange a tryst, I may find more enthusiasm/urgency for finding new prospects and rebuilding the list.

Until then, I’m drifting along, content with where I am.  In the past, I’ve sometimes thought I was slowly drifting away from P4P, but I don’t think that’s the case.  The list usually does get replinished eventually; it just hasn’t, yet.

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[**]  Edited to add:  Well, it turns out not to be quite as far away as I thought. May still not be feasible after work if I have to fight rush hour traffic, but for the middle of the day — not bad.  At least, as long as a long lunch hour won’t be that noticeable.

Putting someone on your “want to see” list

I was involved in a discussion recently of the propensity by P4P clients to publicly comment about putting a lady on their “want to see” list, often in response to reviews or discussions of a particular lady.  The context of the discussion was — guys do it frequently; would we be offended if ladies made similar comments, about particular guys they haven’t seen but would like to see?  Actually, that’s an awful lot like a “cold call,” whether posted publicly (as the guys frequently do about the ladies) or a private approach to the object of their interest.  And even privately a lot of ladies are very reluctant to do so, because of the fear of rejection or that guys don’t want to be approached.

But it did make me wonder . . .

Fidelity

On threads on ASPD and ECCIE awhile back, Kelly raised the question for someone dating an escort who continued to work:

If you were dating an escort…

Would you be okay with her Not wanting to share You with Anyone else?

The premise being: he’s aware of, and OK with, her job . . . but thinks it’s only fair that he be allowed to “play” as well. 

The specific question posed is complicated enough, but there are other questions swirling around an escort in a serious relationship.  It’s a confusing topic, as evidenced by the vast array of answers focusing on different aspects – although there are some aspects that seemed to be ignored by most if not all the participants in the discussion.

What’s wrong with options??

One of the consequences of the illegal status of P4P is the careful “dance” we do in deciding whether to schedule an appointment.  The business is at least partly underground, and that inhibits the free exchange of information to a degree.  Most of the time the normal means of exchanging  information are enough for both parties to feel comfortable proceeding.  But not always.

That’s why it amuses me when someone complains about another option being made available to reach that comfort zone.

Scripted

A question by Rebecca, posted on ASPD and ECCIE, about what constitutes a “scripted” session.

Well, many of us have heard of the extremes — where a lady plays the same CD and moves from activity A to activity B precisely when this song ends. But I think “scripted” and the way that Rebecca is approaching it misses the mark somewhat compared to what many would expect or want out of a session.

Client profile

Alexa has an interesting post over on Real Princess Diaries about client profiles.  She starts by describing a categorization of clients by another escort (Rebecca Dakin) in a book, and then segues into discussion of her typical client.  I found it very interesting, for a couple of reasons.

ASPD down, once again

ASPD is down again.  Well, that’s happened before (often for relatively short periods of time).  But this time I also received an email from an admin there, to pass along:

Not sure what our issues are today, but if you will, please remind those who are registered at Home2 that our secondary site remains active.  And if new providers.members at aspd haven’t yet registered at Home2, they may do so and we will try to get them active asap.

http://home2.invisionzone.com

Consider it a public service announcement for those frantically searching the Internet for information about the status.   Which seems to happen a lot. Of course, I don’t know